Father’s Day doesn’t seem to suffer from the same deep psychic and social constructions. First of all I don’t think fathers need a holiday to validate themselves as much as women have been led to believe they do; an example of this might be the fact that it would probably be a rare dad who died for lack of a Father’s Day card. Most men wouldn’t even suffer a bout of gas over the issue.
But blow Mother’s Day and you might have a conversation like this…
“Congratulations,” your sister will snipe when she calls you, “mother’s dying of grief. I hope you’re satisfied. Bob and I went over to the house with the kids this afternoon to take mother to brunch but she wouldn’t go. She wanted to sit next to the phone waiting for your call. She believed you’d call because you apparently didn’t send a card but when you didn’t call, well…listen, all I can say is if she dies I’ll never forgive you.”
Men are different. If you blow Sunday you can just call and say you’ll be over Wednesday. Your conversation will more likely go like this:
“So, Dad, I’m sorry I forgot to call you Sunday or send a card…”
“What are you talking about?” Immediately you know he’s wondering if he just had a birthday or something.
“Father’s Day, Dad. Sunday was Father’s Day.”
“Oh, yeah, I think your Mother might have mentioned that. So, hey, whaddya’ think about them there Cubs this year, huh? Didcha’ see what they did in Pittsburgh?”
“Dad, you want I should maybe pick up some Chinese?” You say that because you know he likes the egg rolls at a place in the old neighborhood and he never gets over there anymore. “I’ll shoot over to One Hung Low’s place…”
“Naw, don’t bother.” Then he brightens, “But hey, if you’re passing Menards…”
Father’s Day is just so user-friendly, so less labor-intensive than Mother’s Day, you know what I mean?
This weekend I’ll be remembering my Dad and two wonderful grandfathers. I also want to thank my husband for being a fantastic father to our son Shaun.
May all you Dads out there enjoy your day and BTW, just a head’s up: Ace Hardware has some great sales this weekend.